Hi guys! My name is Tekyia Nurse and I’m from the beautiful island of Barbados (it’s a little dot in the Caribbean). I’m a married, stay-at-home mom of a six-month old baby girl.
From a very young age, I always knew I wanted a family. I wanted a family by 23 years old to be exact. However, we all know life doesn’t always go as planned.
At 23 I was still in university and definitely far from ready for family life. I’d actually given into the idea of finishing university, looking for a job and starting a family sometime in the far future. In fact, after I finished university a year later, I took up an English teaching assistant job in Bogota, Colombia for one year so that I could gain some experience to be more marketable in the job force.
Yet again, life twisted for me one year after I returned home; I got married! We both knew we wanted children someday and decided we would wait for at least two to three years before we started. That would give us more than enough time to build our careers and be financially stable. Guess what!? I found out I was pregnant after returning from my honeymoon. I prolonged taking a test and blamed my missed period on stress from starting a new teaching job at a high school. Sadly, what was to be exciting news was a boulder of disappointment for me. Yes, I wanted children but I wasn’t ready! We had many plans of traveling and cruising (my favorite) to fulfill before I entertained the idea of “pausing” my life for a child.
As time went by, I eventually came to terms with my new reality and anxiously awaited the day I would finally meet my baby. It has been a roller coaster ride for me thus far. Getting through pregnancy and adjusting to life with a brand new human has been filled with lots of ups and downs. My experiences thus far have inspired me to open up about what life is like being a mom in hopes of helping some (first time) mother who feels pressured by expectations from society about how they should handle their pregnancy and their child.
Even before giving birth, I was bombarded with so many pieces of advice on what to do, what to wear, what to eat, what baby things I “desperately” need and the list goes on. While some advice was helpful, a lot of it was just noise and I shut down for a bit. I needed to make sure I was OK so I started listening more to my inner voice. That has helped me make some pretty good decisions thus far and I’m happy to share what worked for me vs what didn’t.
Since having my baby, I have joined a mommy and me group and I’m often so amazed at how many of the same pressures, insecurities and general doubts other mamas face – a lot not even talked about enough in our society. I wanted to reach other mothers, share stories and also how I maneuver in different aspects of mommy hood. Let me be clear here. I am by no means touting what I do with my child as fool-proof. It’s all a learning process and I’m up for the challenge.
With all that being said, welcome to my website, The Nursing Mama! Stay for the ride as I share my experiences along this journey.
If you ever need a hand or have any questions or comments, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out. I want to learn from you too! Cheers!
All the best,